“I don’t know,” said the woman on the other side of the phone, on the other side of the world. “Wheelchair basketball sounds like a nice project, but right now our foundation is looking more into inclusion-based programs.”
Instantly, I had a flashback to darker days.
My son Amit, now 16, was born with a severe orthopedic impairment. He spent the first 10 years of his life limping after his peers, trying in vain to catch up to them as they ran faster and faster — on the playground, at track meets, on soccer fields and more.
“Catch us if you can!” his peers taunted as they ran away, laughing in that obnoxious way that fifth-grade boys do. Amit did take off after them — but of course he’d never catch them.
His frustrations were made apparent by poor school performance and behavioral issues. Amit was excluded on the sidelines, and I desperately wanted to give him the feeling of belonging that all children deserve.
So that week, in 2012, after a decade filled with too many of these incidents, I vowed that my boy, bum leg and all, was going to find a way to rise above his disability. There was just one problem: I had no idea how.
Our family had just moved to East Richmond, where we would live for the next three years, close to my parents in El Cerrito (my father is Rabbi Ferenc Raj, rabbi emeritus at Congregation Beth El in Berkeley). We, too, were (and still are) part of the Beth El community — my 11-year-old daughter returns every summer to attend Camp Kee Tov — and Amit had his amputation done at the Sacramento location of Shriners Hospital for Children — Northern California. So I needed to find a program for him in the Bay Area.
Armed with my computer and Google, I came across the Bay Area Outreach Program’s adaptive youth sports program. There was no time spent debating pros and cons. That very weekend — with a long road ahead of him and zero promises — Amit was on his way.
The experience turned out to be transformative: Adaptive sports are truly the epitome of inclusion. Wheelchair basketball enables my son — whose leg we amputated five years ago, following a very tough decision — and other athletes with spinal-cord injuries, congenital impairments and more to play basketball at a high level.
No “inclusion” program would enable him to play able-bodied basketball at such a level, or even close. On the other hand, able-bodied athletes can participate in adaptive sports. Wheelchair basketball is certainly no easier (in fact, it’s often more challenging) than able-bodied basketball, and people of all abilities are able to compete. For the first time ever, the playing field was level for Amit and his new friends.
Amit is a role model for younger kids with disabilities.
Fast forward to today: Amit is now a 16-year-old high school junior. In 2015 our family returned to Israel, and Amit now plays on Israel’s under-22 national team, as well as in the top national leagues. And he practices with the adult national team.
He is working hard to be accepted to one of the few U.S. colleges that offer wheelchair basketball scholarships, so he can study business administration while furthering his basketball career. He also hopes to, someday, play professionally in Europe. He has traveled throughout Israel and the United States raising awareness about adaptive sports, speaking in English and Hebrew to both groups and individuals.
The little boy who “couldn’t” and “shouldn’t” and “wouldn’t” is now a young man with plans, tools and skills. Amit may be only 16, but wheelchair basketball has altered his entire life trajectory: He’s had — and continues to have — a slew of mentors and role models from all over the world, showing him how to reach his goals, both on the court and off.
And now, Amit is a role model for younger kids with disabilities.
Recently I was sitting in the stands with a fellow mom, Galia, whose 12-year-old son, Tal, has cerebral palsy. Tal has been involved in adaptive sports since he was 5 and started practicing with Israel’s junior national Team this year. “Tal really looks up to Amit and he understands that he can dream and work hard to make those dreams come true,” she told me.
I understood Galia in a way only another mother of a disabled kid could. Here was another kid who was always last to be picked for any sports team at his mainstream school, who was now empowered by adaptive sports.
Our conversation was cut short by the announcer bellowing “Let’s plaaaaay ball!” Then, the sound of the buzzer. We were busy cheering at the Israel Sports Center for the Disabled in Ramat Gan — two moms plus a few hundred additional people watching history being made. For the first time ever, the Euro League wheelchair basketball preliminaries were being held in Israel. Five teams from five nations were competing.
Amit was playing with the Israeli team and, boy, was he catching ’em now!
For many athletes, participation in adaptive sports lays the foundation for inclusion, as well as the the pursuit of excellence — something that extends well beyond the court, pool, track or field. Through adaptive sports, they learn lessons that otherwise would be denied to them, such as the importance of hard work, teamwork and sportsmanship.
Perhaps more than anything, these young athletes learn the value of respect — for themselves, their teammates, their coaches and their opponents. If that isn’t real inclusion — both on court and off — then I don’t know what is.