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Deaths for the week of Oct. 19, 2018


Obituaries are supported by a generous grant from Sinai Memorial Chapel.


Barbara Binder Kadden, a nationally known Jewish educator, master teacher and quilter, passed away Oct. 9, one day after her 64th birthday and 27 months after being diagnosed with a brain tumor.

Barbara was born on Oct. 8, 1954, to Alan and Shirley Binder and grew up in Smithtown, New York, before moving as a teenager with her siblings to northern Arizona to live with an uncle and aunt after the death of her mother. Barbara graduated from University of Arizona with a B.A. in Early Childhood Education. She completed master’s degrees in Jewish Education and Jewish Communal Service at Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion in Los Angeles.

Barbara held a variety of positions in Jewish education, including Resource Center Director, Educator of Temple Beth El in Aptos, California, Regional Educator for the Union of Reform Judaism (URJ) and Director of the Jewish Education Council in Seattle. Her artistic talents were most prominently displayed in her art quilts. She was most proud of her quilted Scroll of Esther.

Barbara was the co-author of many Jewish education books, including “Teaching Torah,” “Teaching Mitzvot,” “Teaching Tefilah,” “Teaching Jewish Life Cycle” and the parent education module for the URJ curriculum. She also wrote “The Jewish Parent Page” and “Family Shabbat Table Talk.”

Despite her many professional accomplishments, Barbara most enjoyed her role as wife of 40 years to Bruce Kadden, mother to Alana (Jacob) Ballon and Micah Kadden (Avital Barnea), and savta (grandmother) to Matan and Liav.

In addition to her husband, children and grandchildren, she is survived by her brothers Larry (Beverly) Binder and Richard (Sharon) Binder, her sister Debbie Evenchik, her cousin Jesse (Jan) Klein, her in-laws Paul and Shirley Kadden and many nieces and nephews.

Donations may be made to the Barbara Binder Kadden Artist-in-Residence Fund of Temple Beth El of Tacoma, Washington (tbetacoma.org).


Sandra (Rapkin) Kahn passed away at age 83 in San Jose, California, on August 10, 2018. Although a resident of San Jose for over 50 years, Sandra was always nostalgic for her birthplace: Milwaukee, Wisconsin.

She was born on July 26, 1935, and was soon diagnosed with scoliosis. As an adolescent, her treatment was a new, non-surgery brace called a Milwaukee Brace, which she wore for 23 hours a day. That brace is currently in the Smithsonian, and she is written up in medical journals.

Sandra (Rapkin) Kahn
Sandra (Rapkin) Kahn

She graduated from North Division High School and Milwaukee Downer College. She was one of the few women at that time to pursue graduate education, subsequently earning a master’s degree in guidance counseling from the University of Wisconsin, Madison. Her children sometimes wondered how the university determined she was qualified to earn that degree until they were old enough to appreciate her guidance and counseling.

She met Howard Kahn at a Hillel function, and a few years later they were married. She began teaching high school English, but after a few more years of snow, they moved to Phoenix, Arizona, for a change of scene. It was a little too hot in Arizona and five years later they moved to San Jose, California.

For over 20 years, Sandra taught English, GED, psychology, memory and learning classes for the Adult Education Program in San Jose. She also taught in the religious schools of Temple Sinai and Temple Emanu-El in San Jose. After retirement, she tutored English at the Sylvan Learning Center. Also, Sandra always took pleasure in helping her grandchildren with their English homework.

Sandra had a strong Jewish identity and also believed it was important to support the State of Israel. She was active in the Sisterhood at Temple Emanu-El and then in the Villages Jewish group. She was a life member of Hadassah.

Sandra’s favorite hobbies were playing mahjong and watching “Jeopardy.” She subconsciously awarded herself bonus points when she correctly answered a “Jeopardy” question about Wisconsin. She especially enjoyed calling her children and telling them about questions she answered correctly and checking to see if they knew the answers. They never did.

Sandra is survived by her children, Geri Kahn and Alan Kahn, as well as grandchildren, Rachael Kahn and Jacob Kahn. She is preceded in death by her parents, Kate and Michael Rapkin; brother Sheldon Rapkin; and sister Arlene (Rapkin) Levin.

A celebration of Sandra’s life will be held on Sunday, Nov. 11, 2018 at noon at the Foothill Clubhouse at the Villages. Those who so desire may make memorial donations in memory of Sandra to “Kids Need to Read.” kidsneedtoread.org/donate/


Paul Kaplan, 93, of San Mateo, passed away peacefully at home on Oct. 11, 2018. During his final days Paul did what he did throughout his life: He made others laugh, especially his wife, Rita, the love of his life.

Paul was born in Chicago on Jan. 12, 1925, the son of Edward and Minnie Kaplan.

Paul Kaplan
Paul Kaplan

Paul’s passion was music, and his instrument was the clarinet. At 13, while attending Salinas High School, he started his own band, Paul Kaplan and his Kaptivating Rhythms, which developed a large following throughout the Monterey Bay Area. While still in high school, Paul played professionally with big bands at the Del Monte Hotel in Monterey, Capitola Hotel at Capitola Beach, and Coconut Grove in Santa Cruz.

During World War II, Paul served as a member of the United States Army Air Corps Band, playing for troops in the United States, France and Germany. He continued to play the clarinet after the war, and for the rest of his life he carried it with him to over 40 countries, which he and Rita visited during their 70-year marriage. No family occasion, no party with friends, no bonfire at the beach was complete without Paul and his clarinet.

Paul owned Carlyle Jewelers in San Mateo until he retired in 1986. During his retirement, Paul and Rita continued their journeys about the world, always with Paul’s clarinet in hand. Between travels, Paul volunteered in the San Mateo Foster City School District, entertaining children with his music. He also loved the mornings he spent greeting visitors to the gardens at Filoli.

Paul is survived by his wife, Rita; daughter Laurel Rubin (Miles); son Doug Kaplan (Gwen); grandchildren Amy Kaplan (Jonathan Pilch), Adam Rubin (Dana Guidetti), Cora Kaplan and Daniel Rubin (fiancé Sefi); and great-grandchildren Micah, Leo and Forrest.

The family would like to acknowledge the tender care of Paul’s wonderful caregivers and Mission Hospice during the final days of his life.

A celebration of Paul’s life will be held Nov. 3.


Gloria Frank Naggar, “Frankie,” died peacefully at the age of 90 on Oct. 2, 2018, following a brief illness.

Frankie was born in Detroit, Michigan. As a student at UC Berkeley, Frankie met the love of her life, Avner, at the Hillel house. Married for 67 years, Frankie was a devoted wife and mother, raising five children. After college, Frankie and Avner moved their young family to her hometown of Detroit, then Israel, and finally settled in the San Francisco Bay Area, the place they would call home for more than 50 years.

Gloria Frank Naggar
Gloria Frank Naggar

For 25 years, Frankie was a much loved teacher to generations of kindergartners and first-graders, both at Foster City Elementary School and Sunnybrae in San Mateo. Both she and Avner loved to entertain large gatherings in their home, bringing together friends and family for Thanksgiving dinners and Passover seders that were invariably filled with music and song. They loved to travel, and in their later years, they especially enjoyed taking cruises. Above all, Frankie was a loving and generous mother to her children and grandchildren, always placing them at the center of her world. She will be dearly missed.

She is preceded in death by her beloved husband Avner and her two oldest children, Mickey Naggar Bourne and Auri Naggar.

She is survived by her children Ron Naggar, David Naggar and Tammy Naggar Donovan, as well as her grandchildren, Jed, Sari, Josh, Danny, Elizabeth and Joseph.

Donations in Frankie’s name can be made to the Mickey Naggar Bourne Israel Scholarship Fund: ittakeschutzpah.org/support.

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Nancy Sloss passed away peacefully surrounded by family on Oct. 3, 2018, in Washington, D.C. She was 90 years old. Ms. Sloss was a San Francisco native. She was the daughter of the late Leon Sloss Jr. and Eleanor Fleishhacker Sloss. Her brothers, Leon Sloss III and Peter, predeceased her.

Nancy Sloss
Nancy Sloss

Despite her California roots, Nancy spent most of her adult life on the East Coast. She worked for Gov. Pat Brown, Jerry Brown’s father, in the 1960s. In the late 1960s and early 1970s she continued her political work with Sen. Alan Cranston in his Washington, D.C., office.

Nancy spent the next 20 years as a documentary film producer. She co-produced the film “High Schools” with acclaimed director Charles Guggenheim. It was nominated for an Academy Award in 1984 for Outstanding Achievement in Documentary Feature Films. She also co-produced “Retreat from Beirut,” which received an Emmy Award in 1985 for Outstanding Investigative Journalism.

Nancy loved to travel. She traveled to every continent except Antarctica and visited almost 100 countries. Nancy was widely respected for her kindness and generosity.

She is survived by six nieces and nephews and significant others, two sisters-in-law, 13 great-nieces and great-nephews, and one great-great-niece. A memorial service was held in Washington, D.C. In lieu of flowers, donations may be offered in Nancy’s honor to Doctors Without Borders USA, or the Southern Poverty Law Center.