Deaths


Gloria Sax Burke, M.D.

Nov. 13, 1939–Dec. 11, 2016

Our beloved Gloria died from metastatic leptomeningeal carcinomatosis due to an occult primary adenocarcinoma of lung. The onset of her disease was shocking, as was her clinical course.

Gloria was an intelligent, beautiful, loving wife, mother, Bubbie, sister, sister-in-law, aunt and loyal friend, as well as a talented child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst. She possessed a unique nonlinear manner of reasoning that was creative, probing and enlightened, whether applied to patients or in her reading, writing and overall conversation.

Gloria was born in the Northern Ontario gold-mining city Timmins, where she spent her formative years as the youngest of three children born to the late Manya and Morris Sax. At the age of 7, the family moved to the Forest Hill area of Toronto, where Gloria attended elementary and high school. In 1958, she was one of the few women accepted into the premed program at the University of Toronto. Upon completion of premeds, Gloria transferred to medical school at the University of Western Ontario and married David Burk. She received her M.D. at age 24 and interned at the Montreal General Hospital, followed by a residency in psychiatry at the University of Cincinnati where her son Eli was born.

Moving to California, Gloria completed her subspecialty training in child psychiatry at Stanford University Medical Center, where she gave birth to a daughter, Katherine (Kathy). Gloria joined the psychiatry faculty of Stanford as a clinical assistant professor and established a successful practice. She and David divorced, but in 1977 she re-met Jerome (Jerry) Burke, whom she had known in premeds and recently had joined the Department of Pathology at Stanford. Gloria and Jerry soon became inseparable and Gloria added an “e” to her name by marrying Jerry in April 1979.

In 1982, the family moved to Southern California, where Gloria was able to effect a new practice in child psychiatry in Pasadena and was appointed clinical associate professor in child psychiatry at UCLA. In 1987, she and Jerry returned to the San Francisco Bay Area, residing in Orinda and working in Berkeley where Gloria for the third time launched another successful child and adult psychiatry practice, as well as working at a therapeutic nursery school.

In Berkeley, Gloria resumed friendships from the South Bay and made many new friends, joined a child psychiatry study group, writing and poetry circles, attended classes in American sign language and, with selected other therapists, formed the “difficult daughters” club. She and Jerry traveled frequently and expanded their geographic horizons discovering Thailand, Japan and China, as well as Europe and trips to family in Canada.

In 1995, Gloria and Jerry kvelled over the marriage of Kathy to Brent Ellis. Gloria was a devoted mother-in-law as well as a Bubbie upon the birth of much-loved granddaughter Lillian in 2002 and grandson Landry in 2004. In her late 50s, Gloria fulfilled a long-held ambition and was accepted in the training program at the San Francisco Psychoanalytic Institute from which she graduated in 2003. Gloria retired as an active psychiatrist and psychoanalyst in 2008.

Gloria’s retirement years were highly active not only by her voracious reading, but continuing with her creative writing and poetry groups, writing and publishing with Kathy two highly imaginative children’s books, “Finding Mr. Ness” (2010) and “The Scrolls of Tilania” (2015), enjoying monthly dinners with friends, forming new friendships in Orinda, riding horses, learning and loving to tap dance as a member of the “Happy Hoofers” dance troupe, frequent

Seattle trips to visit her grandchildren, hiking, reading and entertaining on Orcas Island, Washington, frequenting the San Francisco Symphony, listening to jazz, buying modern art and supporting Bay Area art museums, going to movies and dining out, spoiling Jerry with delicious gourmet-type home cooking, and further travel to the Far East and Europe.

Gloria is survived by her husband, Jerome (Jerry), daughter Katherine (Kathy), son-in-law Brent, beloved grandchildren Lillian and Landry, son Eli, brothers Jerry (Farol) and Bob, nieces and nephews and numerous loyal and loving friends.

The family would like to thank the friends who sat vigil and visited with Gloria during her illness, Dr. Oleg Krijanovski plus the other outstanding physicians and caring and compassionate nursing staff at Alta Bates Summit Medical Center in Oakland, the nursing staff at Manor Care in Walnut Creek and the sensitive support of Hospice East Bay. Gloria’s funeral and burial were held at Gan Shalom Cemetery, Briones, California, on Dec. 14, 2016. Rabbi Mark Bloom of Temple Beth Abraham in Oakland conducted the services.

Memorial donations may be sent to the Early Childhood Mental Health Program,

200 24th St., Richmond, CA 94804, Facing History and Ourselves, 16 Hurd Road,

Brookline, MA 02445 or The Threepenny Review, P.O. Box 9131, Berkeley, CA 94709.

Sinai Memorial Chapel

(925) 962-3636

 


Carol Harband

Dec. 22, 1947–Dec. 9, 2016

Carol Harband passed away at Stanford Hospital on Dec. 9, 2016. She is survived by her beloved husband, Martin Harband, her cherished children, Jordan Harband (Crystal Glenn) and Hilary De Hope (Travis De Hope), and her adored sister, Barbara Kendall.

Proud native of San Francisco; raised in Noe Valley by her parents, Ruby and John Bean; attended Alvarado, James Lick, and Mission High schools; a graduate of SFSU.

Martin and Carol celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary with friends and family on Oct. 16, 2016.

Memorial contributions may be made to CASA of San Mateo County, 330 Twin Dolphins Drive, Redwood City, CA 94065, and Bonnie J. Addario Lung Cancer Foundation, 1100 Industrial Road, Suite 1, San Carlos, CA 94070.

Gravesite service was held with family. A celebration of Carol’s life is planned for January 2017. Details will be published at http://carol.har.band.