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Message: <br /><br /> If you are having trouble reading this email, you may view this article online at: http://www.jweekly.com/15872/full/15872/welcoming-daughters-becoming-new-custom/ <br /><br /> <b>Welcoming daughters becoming new custom</b> <br /> Friday, June 15, 2001 | by <p>DEBRA NUSSBAUM COHEN </p> <br /><br /><p>NEW YORK—For centuries, Jewish communities from North Africa to Eastern Europe welcomed their baby girls with a range of customs, though none carried the same sense of religious importance as the commanded brit milah, or ritual circumcision, always has for boys. And as those communities were dispersed into diaspora or destroyed by anti-Semitism, the customs around girls' births all but died out.<br /><br /> Though the Sephardi community in America still customarily welcomes its new daughters with singing in synagogue and a party, in most American Jewish families little was done, until recently, to recognize the birth of a girl in a religious manner.<br /><br /> Traditionally oriented fathers go to synagogue on the first day that the Torah is read after the birth of a daughter to name her, and ask God to watch over his new daughter and help heal his wife. Rarely are the mother and baby present.<br /><br /> Often today in liberal synagogues the entire family is called up for an aliyah when they first return to synagogue on Shabbat. They bless the Torah and a blessing is said to name the new daughter and offer hope that she will grow into healthy adulthood.<br /><br /> But in recent years, the simchat bat has also been available to Jews wanting to welcome their baby daughters into the Covenant and into their families with the same marriage of ritual seriousness and joy accorded to their sons.<br /><br /> The simchat bat (celebration of the daughter) or brit bat (covenant of the daughter), as it is often known, was first created in the early 1970s by Rabbis Sandy Eisenberg Sasso and Dennis Sasso, and separately, by Rabbi Michael and Sharon Strassfeld. They were connected with the chavurah and Reconstructionist movements, which created the new ritual out of a desire to renew Judaism spiritually and give equal inclusion to the female voice.<br /><br /> Since that time, particularly in the last five years, welcoming the birth or adoption of baby girls has become a quiet revolution in all sectors of the Jewish community, with Jews from Secular Humanist and Reform to Orthodox welcoming their daughters with rituals they compose and hold at home.<br /><br /> "Thirty years ago nobody even asked the question of whether a girl should have a ceremony," said Rabbi Nina Cardin, who was involved early on in the creation and dissemination of welcoming ceremonies for girls. Cardin now works as director of Jewish Life for the Jewish Community Center of Greater Baltimore.<br /><br /> "There is a huge awareness that has developed over a relatively short span of time, and it has bubbled up from the bottom. These ceremonies were a very radical expression back then, and nowadays they're not."<br /><br /> While the rabbis' manuals in the mainstream movements all include brief synagogue-based rituals to welcome girls, a growing number of families are opting to hold a more complex ceremony at home.<br /><br /> Adina Kalet and her husband, Mark Schwartz, who belong to a Conservative synagogue and live in Brooklyn with their son and daughter, knew that they would welcome their daughter with a simchat bat after they adopted her from Colombia, at age 4 months, just over a year ago.<br /><br /> "We were eager to celebrate publicly her coming to us, and we've always turned to our own traditions as much as we could," Kalet said. "Even during five years of infertility we looked for Jewish rituals" to help work through it.<br /><br /> Incorporated into Sara's simchat bat were elements representing her heritage. An aunt sang her a song in Ladino, the language of Spanish-speaking Jews. Kalet and Schwartz dipped Sara's feet in water, similar to the mikvah in which she had been just immersed to be converted to Judaism, and spoke of their journey bringing her into their family.<br /><br /> "To have a ritual way of welcoming her was just so meaningful on so many levels. It helped us focus on the transition from being infertile to having it all be over, and having her be with us," Kalet said.</p> <p> </p>

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