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celebrations |  The wedding singer: Singing tunes beneath the chuppah sets emotional tone

by binyamin kagedan, jns.org

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The hall has been booked, the flowers selected, the photographer approved, the band chosen. With all the material components of the celebration in place, the focus turns to the intangibles.

What makes a Jewish wedding truly moving and memorable is not what is seen, but what is heard. The emotional tone of the ceremony won’t be set by the size of the bride’s bouquet, but by a heartfelt blessing, a unique vow or a special song.

Binyamin Kagedan sings beneath a chuppah.  photo/yuval haber
Binyamin Kagedan sings beneath a chuppah. photo/yuval haber
That’s where I come in.

A musician and singer by hobby, I have had the good fortune of being asked to sing under the chuppah at the weddings of most of my best friends, as well as close family members. The Jewish wedding ceremony is rich in opportunities for powerful emotional expression, especially in its music. Songs about holy love punctuate and enliven each step of the process: the groom’s entrance, then the bride’s; the last of the seven blessings; the breaking of the glass. The quality and combination of the tunes used for these moments lend each and every chuppah a unique emotional texture.

I view my role in these weddings not just as cantor or entertainer, but as consultant. In order to create a “score” that channels the couple’s individual personality, I provide them with a range of options for each musical moment, and give ideas and tips on how to fit the music into the complex choreography of their chuppah.

Some couples like the more elegiac melodies, others prefer a more cheerful ambience. Some include pop music in their ceremony, others keep to the traditional Hebrew verse. Certain brides want guitar accompaniment, others request pure voice or prefer that I sing with the band they hired.

A few grooms will break the glass underfoot while I am still singing, “If I forget thee O Jerusalem,” but most will wait until after the last note, letting the sound of the shattering signal the eruption of “Mazal Tov!” from the crowd.

Chuppah music is an art, and like all good art, it comes together in the details. Attention to detail is essential to creating a seamless aesthetic experience for the bride, groom and assembled guests, and for my part, is a gesture of love and dedication toward the marrying couple.

I begin rehearsing weeks before the event, nailing down the perfect tempo, finding the optimal key for my vocal range and making certain that I can comfortably hit the lowest and highest notes. When the specifics are set, I get in touch with the band leader to bring him or her up to speed.

Come wedding day, I drag the keyboardist out of the smorgasbord to run through the set with me in person, just to be sure that nothing is left to chance.

There are few acts more gratifying than to enhance the sweetness of the wedding day for dear friends. I got to experience one of them recently as I designed and performed (along with my new sister-in-law) the vocals for my own chuppah.

Singing to my glowing bride as she circled around me seven times, I felt as though all the time and care I had put into every previous chuppah performance, all of the logistical and aesthetic expertise I had accumulated, all of it was meant to prepare me for that moment, for her. And though the October weather was perfectly unseasonable, the hanging candles perfectly placed and her dress perfectly tailored, it was the music that made the night so perfect.


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