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Deaths for the week of May 5, 2017

Judy Millman Aufhauser

Wife, mother, grandmother, friend and mentor, Judy Millman Aufhauser, born May 14, 1945, died April 4, 2017 at the age of 71. Judy made wide-ranging friendships throughout her life and maintained them vigorously through the years. Judy thrived on camaraderie and special relationships with her extended family and lifelong friends. Over the years, she and husband Marty attended as many family events across the world as they possibly could. Her friends came from many stages of life — from elementary school, high school (Mumford High, Detroit, Michigan), BBYO (B’nai B’rith Youth Organization), University of Michigan, and throughout her 46 years living in Moraga, California.

Judy and Marty exemplified a type of friendship that most of us aspire to. After meeting in San Francisco in 1969, they remained devoted to each other for their 47 years of marriage. They lovingly parented their three sons, David (Darci), Daniel (Jennie) and Joshua (Adira). Judy devotedly cooked for them during their teenage years, even as they ate their way through gallons of milk and multiple boxes of cereal. All three Aufhauser sons played sports in Moraga, and Judy managed to keep up with their five-meal-a-day appetites while welcoming their teammates and friends into their house for home-cooked meals.

And Judy’s eyes lit up whenever she saw or thought of one of her grandchildren – Abbi, Maia, Leo, and Auguste — and lovingly ran “Gramma Camp” for the next generation of Aufhausers. Her grandchildren returned that affection in full measure.

Judy was a learner and teacher. She attended the University of Michigan, graduating in 1967 with a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology, and receiving a Master’s Degree in Special Education from San Francisco State University in 1970. Judy’s focus in life was to pursue social justice, to make the world a better and safer place, and to be a leader in all of her pursuits. Judy’s greatest impact was as an educator helping students with learning disabilities. She pursued her goals by founding The Learning Lab, teaching students in a one-to-one setting. Judy maintained friendships with her former students. She treated everyone with dignity. She maintained contact with friends from throughout her life through cards, dinners, helping with jobs, and all kinds of support necessary. Judy was giving, empathetic, warm, and supportive.

Judy was a voracious reader and shepherded her beloved Book Group through 20-plus years of books and discussions. The only time that she sat still was viewing the movies that she so loved.

From Judy’s first visit to Israel in 1963, she knew that she wanted to travel the world, and she instilled the same love of travel into David, Daniel and Joshua. Marty and Judy traveled to every continent, visiting over seventy countries. She shared the memories of these travels with friends and family. Her friends would often say “Where in the world are Judy and Marty today?”

Judy was a “take charge” woman who always acknowledged her family and friends with affection and caring. Judy believed “never ever give up.” Judy will be deeply mourned. A Celebration of Life was held on Sunday, April 9, 2017 in the sanctuary at Temple Sinai, 2808 Summit St., Oakland, California 94609.

Donations may be made in Judy’s memory to Independent Jewish World Cinema (East Bay International Jewish Film Festival), Contra Costa Jewish Day School, Lehrhaus Judaica, or to your favorite charity.

J. Staff