Wilfred Kapkin


Age 100, passed away peacefully on Monday, April 7, 2014 in Redwood City, California, surrounded by his loving family. Will was born on April 2, 1914, “Out the Road” in San Francisco, California. He was married to Ruth Kaplan for 56 years until her death in 1994. As an owner of Kapkin Paper Stock, Will worked in recycling used and rejected cartons until retiring in 1976. In 2004 he moved to the Woodside Terrace in Redwood City, where Will lived actively, making every day an adventure.

Will was a devoted father to Bonnie Pearlman (Don Pearlman) of Woodside and Herbert Kapkin of San Francisco. His greatest joy in life was his family. Will’s grandchildren, Zack (Joy) Pearlman, Loren (Tom) Ward and Dena (Darren) Myers lived close by. The lights of his life were his great-grandchildren, Adam and Allison Pearlman and Riley, Eli and Katarina Myers. To them “Zayda” was a playmate pushing them in his walker, feeding the ducks and birds or making s’mores around the firepit. Life was sweet for them all.

Will’s greatest passion was helping others, and that led him to befriend many. No task was too difficult to tackle and the pleasure he received knowing he was helping someone was priceless. Will’s sense of humor and love for life was infectious. Living through the horse and buggy age to the electric car era, Will embraced change his way. He was one of a kind.

Interment was at the Hills of Eternity in Colma. Donations in his honor may be made to the Jewish Home and Senior Living Foundation at 302 Silver Ave., San Francisco, CA 94112.

Sinai Memorial Chapel (650) 369-3636

Ella Lerner

Feb. 3, 1957-March 26, 2014

Ella Lerner, beloved wife of Jeffrey Lerner, passed away on March 26, 2014 after a two-year struggle with progressive supranuclear palsy, an extremely rare, rapidly progressing, neurodegenerative disorder. Ella had the unique ability to live fully in every moment and to face the most extreme circumstances with dignity, courage, bravery and love. When she could no longer work due to her illness, she read voraciously, something she had never had the opportunity to do in her life. When she could no longer see well enough to read, she created art, covering the walls of her home with her efforts. When finally she could no longer withstand the ravages of her illness, she chose to die with dignity at home, in the loving care of her husband, with the help of caregivers and hospice.

Born in Soviet Russia, she chose to emigrate with her daughter to Israel when it became possible to do so. Later, after surviving multiple wars, she brought herself and her daughter to Walnut Creek, California, where she met and married her husband, Jeffrey Lerner. She was proud of her daughter, whom she loved dearly, and saw her daughter through to graduate from the University of California at Berkeley and be married before she died.

She was trained in mathematics and computer science and had a long career at SPL as a software engineer. When SPL was acquired by Oracle, she continued to work there until forced to retire due to her illness. All of her colleagues embraced her love of work, kindness, professionalism, joy, integrity and work ethic.

She is survived by her husband, Jeffrey, her daughter Anna,  sister Marina, and father, Anatolyi. She will always be remembered for her capacity for love, her joy of life, her quiet dignity and her caring manner.

Sinai Memorial Chapel (925) 962-3636